A letter to the mom at Target.

Dear lady at Target:
I know you are trying to be a good mom. I’m sure you are doing all that you can to make your daughter feel like a princess tomorrow at the banquet that you are going to.
You took her out shopping tonight and that’s really awesome! Every girl loves to go out shopping on a Friday night.
That’s great. That’s awesome.
But I have something to say. That 14 year old girl that you were telling me about. That girl who is the middle child. The girl who has a 19 year old brother who didn’t put you through all the stress you are going through with her. The one you told she was fat.
Well, I’m going to tell you something about that girl. It may be hard to hear, but I think it will be really useful.
Don’t hound her about losing weight. Don’t tell her she’s ugly. Don’t stay in the dressing room with her when she asks you to leave. You’re breaking her. You’re hurting her. You’re destroying the daughter you want.
If you keep telling her those things, she will start to believe them, and then, she’s going to struggle. She’s going to struggle a lot. You don’t want her to hate you or worse, herself do you?
Well, maybe you do want her to struggle. I don’t actually know you, but I’ve been in your daughters shoes.
Being skinny isn’t going to make her love her life. The depression won’t go away, and the pressures of the world will magnify.
She’s a beautiful girl, so do me a favor, love her. Love her flaws, her imperfections, her beauty and the way she was created. She will be someone’s best friend and maybe even wife one day, raise her right and her insecurities won’t be an issue.
Know I’m praying for you both. In fact, I’m praying for all moms and daughters who had this fight tonight.
She has value and worth. Let her know.
Love, a girl who has been there.

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